Hi, I know that raising a child with a disorder can be quite changeling at times, and either take it's toll on your marriage or your nerves. But after all the years of putting up with agony and heartache comes joy. Yes joy. When your child finally reaches that certain age, when they can make the decision to control the way they act. It makes life easier! I know that probably sound like bull at this stage of the game, but after years of therapy, and meds, a child actually comes to terms that they really don't want to act that way the disorder is making them act that way. So they come to realize that the only way to stop themselves from acting that way is to control the way they act. I hear my son saying to himself "NO WAY". I know we all heard that phrase a thousand times but this time he is saying it to control the way the disorder makes him act, and finally realizing that he doesn't want to act that way because there will be repercussions. He will either be punished for the way he acts, or be yelled at. It took quite a bit of years of going with the flow but he finally realizes, that he can't get away with it anymore. Because he is not a child anymore he is growing into an adult and adults don't act that way. So the best advice I can give any parent is hang in there it does get better! A little word of engoragement goes a long way for both parent and child!
Some of the signs of ODD! Oppositional Defiant Disorder
A pattern of negativistic, hostile, and defiant behavior lasting at
least 6 months, during which four (or more) of the following are present:
(a) often loses temper
(b) often argues with adults
(c) often actively defies or refuses to comply with adults' requests or
(d) often deliberately annoys people
(e) often blames others for his or her mistakes or misbehavior
(f) is often touchy or easily annoyed by others
(g) is often angry and resentful
(h) is often spiteful or vindictive
Note: Consider a criterion met only if the behavior occurs more
frequently than is typically observed in individuals of comparable age
and developmental level.
The disturbance in behavior causes clinically significant impairment in
social, academic, or occupational functioning.
The behaviors do not occur exclusively during the course of a Psychotic
or Mood Disorder.
Criteria are not met for Conduct Disorder, and, if the individual is age
18 years or older, criteria are not met for Antisocial Personality